When people ask me how I’m doing, I respond “I’m breathing”. It’s not a lie. It’s not the story. I’m tired of telling the story. I’m tired of the story period.
I’m tired of how I feel like I’ve been written into this story against my will, forced to play a role I don’t want to play. But no one is truly forcing me, are they? Technically, I can cut the strings and say goodbye to this mess. But I don’t want to. I’m still holding out for a miracle. I really want to believe in miracles.
I’m not good at change. I know, you aren’t either. Some people are; I’m suspicious of those people, for the record. But I’m not at all good at this sort of thing. When you’re from a background where your life was full of land mines, you either get good at uncertainty, or you don’t. I didn’t.
Uncertainty is scary. Unfortunately, it’s also how life is.
What’s going on right now is really hard to talk about. A huge portion of what’s going on for me is borne out of the what’s going on with someone else, and mostly what they’re doing about it. Someone who I care deeply for. Someone who I believe I was meant to meet in this life because I believe we have known each other in previous life times.
What’s going on for this person is his story. His journey. His truth. His stuff.
And because the Universe works the way it does (I’m starting to figure out your tricks you little vixen) I am coming to realize that my part in this is to figure out just which parts are actually mine. Fine. Lesson time. I get it. Well, I don’t get it, but I will. Or at least I’ll keep getting bashed over the head with ‘opportunities’ until I do.
These lessons are painful. They are confusing. I do NOT want to do this work. I don’t want to cry myself to sleep one more goddamned time. I don’t want to feel shooting pains down my arms as I weep out of grief, confusion and loss. I don’t want to have to tell my children “I don’t know” when they ask questions I can’t answer. I want answers. I want a crystal ball. At this point, even a Magic 8 Ball will do.
My resistance to what is, is taking a toll. I’m not sleeping very well. I look forward to the distraction of going to work. I feel the familiar, and unwelcome, spin of obsessive thoughts, of checking and rechecking, of unfounded fears and worries. I know I need to get off the hamster wheel, there is no question. But I can’t force myself to do it, not yet. I can’t surrender hope. I can’t surrender to the possibility that in the end of this I may lose something so precious to me, something my heart and soul are invested in.
Maybe that’s the lesson, too. The losing. The letting go.
Whatever it is, I’m not ready.